I think I pass judgement too easily.
I think my advice is somewhat biased?
Is that the word I'm looking for?
Biased, wrong, un-educated.
Yes, un-educated.
I've been thinking lately, has all the advice I've ever given been wrong?
Maybe not all, but some.
If one day I go against the advice I've given, am I a hypocrite?
When something happens to you, I guess you'd realise how easy it is to do that thing with good intentions, or no intentions.
I sit there, with friends or strangers, giving out life lessons that I probably won't pay attention to one day.
Looking back on the advice given, "stay away from him" "you can do better" "don't stick around for that", have I listened to myself?
No.
When I have talked to people and thought, "how could you do that" "what were you thinking?", Now I know.
Looking back I understand. It's not easy, sometimes it's accidental.
Sometimes it's out of your hands.
Sometimes you can't help the hurt.
Sometimes the secrecy is too much.
Sometimes, just sometimes, you wish there were people out there who understood.
And I guess you'll find them in the places you least expect, they are the people you have given advice to.
They will possibly think less of you, or perhaps they will feel some form of release of relief.
You finally know how they felt. They aren't alone. You're not alone.

If you asked a murderer how it felt to kill, asked them to answer honestly, would they say it was easier than they expected?
How can we judge them when we ourselves have never killed.
Perhaps they once sat and thought to themselves, "I'd never do such a thing" "What could possess them?".
Now they know, and now, do they think differently?

I think differently after this.